Conquer Your Fears
Since the traumatic event that happened to me last year (you can check out the blog post here ) it has woke me up to the fact that life is way too short and we aren’t promised tomorrow. I know that probably sounds grim but it is the truth.
But instead of letting this scare me (which it would even about a 1 and a half ago), I am motivated by it. This past year I have been examining my life and see where I am holding myself back to living my best life.
This is what I found out about myself….
What I found was that I let fear hold me back way too much. I have chosen in the past to not risk anything and sit in my little comfort zone. I thought in this space that I was safe but what I am learning is that I am not allowing myself to truly live because of fear.
So I have been determined to identify the fears that are holding me back and go crush them by doing what I am scared to do.
One of those fears was to start this blog and put myself out there. I have been wanting to start a blog for years but I was always afraid of what others would think about me. Would anyone even read my blog? Would anyone care what I have to say?
I made the decision that I am going to go for it and not allow what others could possibly think about me limit what I do in my life. I have a hard time being vulnerable and putting myself out there but it is getting easier.
Another fear of mine is rock climbing, I tried it a few years back and I failed at it making it a few feet up the wall. I felt so embarrassed about putting myself out there in front of a bunch of people. I didn’t try it again because I let that moment define me.
I had the opportunity recently to go rock climbing with a bunch of friends. At first, I was pretty nervous about going but I decided I wasn’t going to let that fear hold me back especially since I had decided this was the year of crushing fears.
When I first got there I was thinking what did I get myself into. I got all suited up in the special climbing shoes you have to wear to climb and the climbing harness. It was about to get real, y’all!
We had an instructor who coached us through the basics and then we were turned loose. Naturally, I held back and watched everyone else scale the wall effortlessly and thinking to myself that there is no way I can do it. But I decided to trust myself and to go after it. I did try a few times on other walls and the fear was so crippling I had to come down off the wall only had made it a foot.
I was shaking and I even had a small anxiety attack where I could hardly breathe. I finally settled down and made a choice that I was going to do this. With tears in my eyes and my family and friends cheering me on, I started climbing the wall. I could hear the encouragement from all my family and friends and even though I was scared out of my mind I kept going. I decided to not look down but to keep going and to trust that everything would be ok. I made it to the top and everything was ok!
I learned that I am stronger than I thought I was and with Christ in me and my friends and family around me I can accomplish anything. It was so freeing to come down off of that wall and feel the chains of fear falling away. I felt like an overcomer at this moment and it was such a great feeling.
“For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love and self-discipline.” 2 Timothy 1:7
I have also identified another fear that I have had most of my life which is a fear of drowning in a large body of water. This is a fear that I have been comfortable with not trying to overcome but it has sidelined me from a lot of fun.
Well, you guessed it! I put myself in a situation to try something new on the lake which is stand up paddleboarding! This has been something I have been wanting to try for a while now and I thought it would actually be easier than what it was!!
When I first got on the paddleboard, I was content with sitting on it and paddling that way. I couldn’t see how anyone can stand on something that was so unstable!!! My husband encouraged me to try and get up on my knees on the board which I was able to do. But I couldn’t make it all the way up and when I tried to stand up on it, I fell in the water! You know what, it wasn’t the most terrible thing to fall into the water either!
I swam to the boat and I had to collect myself before having the courage to try it again. I finally made it back on the board. We had to get a little creative on how to get me standing up on the board (since my core is still weak from the multiple stomach surgeries) but I did it! I even paddled around the boat and I didn’t fall in!! It was fun and I am glad that pushed through my fear and accomplished what I set out to do!
I am still a work in progress when it comes to conquering my fears and I am not perfect at it nor will I ever be. But with determination, hard work and not settling for what is comfortable I will continue to identify fears to work through.
Are you ready to conquer your fears? Here are some tips to start crushing those fears and start living your best life now!!!
1. Identify your fears and thoughts that are holding you back.
2. Spend some time in prayer and ask God to give you the strength to conquer your fears. Find a scripture about fear and memorize it so that you can say it out loud when you are fearful.
3. Tell a trusted friend your fears and that you are ready to conquer these fears that are holding you back. Invite them on the journey with you and allow them to encourage you when you feel like you can’t do it.
4. Put yourself out there!! Whether it is starting a blog, rock climbing, etc take a step forward!!!
5. Crush that fear! It will be so worth it!!!
Now that I have crushed a few fears, it has given me an assurance that I don’t have to let fear hold me back anymore!! This is my prayer for you, friend!!
I want to hear from you!! Leave a comment below and tell me what your fears are and what is holding you back from doing the things you want to do in your life!!!