You Are Welcome Here!
I have been taking a little of a hiatus from the blog because I have been trying to figure out a more specific vision and purpose for it so that I can serve you better. I want this space to be a place of honesty, hope, truth, support, and love.
I want to empower you to live your best life even in the midst of the messy. Because life is messy, amiright?! I want this space to be of value to you and not a highlight reel of my life. I want to go into those messy places in your life with you.
Comparison is a trap…..
It is so easy to look at social media and believe that everyone else has it all together. They always have the perfect hair, clothes, you name it they got it. But that’s not the truth!! We only get to see the highlights but not typically all the messy. Nobody has it all together!
I will never forget being at an amusement park a few years ago. I was people watching because that is what I do at an amusement park. LOL. There was this couple who was fighting and the woman wanted to take a picture. So they stopped fighting long enough to take a picture (smiles and all) then they went back to fighting. But if you saw their picture on social media you would think that they are a happy couple having a great time at the amusement park.
This is what is so discouraging for me. It is so easy for me to compare myself to other people’s highlight reel and feel like I am less than. I don’t have the perfect home, marriage, family, body but that is ok.
Life isn’t perfect but it sure is beautiful. It brings me so much comfort when others openly share their messy because I don’t feel alone anymore in whatever I am going through. I bet you feel the same way.
The reality is in life spouses can become more like roommates, kids screaming, potty training a child who just pooped on the floor, the house is a complete disaster, hurt feelings amongst a friend and the list goes on.
Y’all life is gonna throw us all the crazy, messy things BUT we can find peace and work through all these things that life throws at us. We CAN take steps to make things better toward an intentional life, not a passive one where we allow the crazy, messy things to take over.
We CAN start investing in our marriage so that our spouse doesn’t feel like a roommate anymore but with intentionality, we can bring passion back into our marriages. We CAN start taking notice when we need a timeout and be intentional about self-care.
We cannot take care of our family or others if we don’t first take care of ourselves. Now I am preaching to myself on this one…but it is something I have to fight for otherwise it never happens.
Start by taking small steps….
We CAN start to take small steps by putting systems into place to create a simpler routine in order to take control of all our clutter in our lives. When I say clutter I am not only meaning physical material clutter in our homes that stress us out but also other “clutter” such as busy schedules that leave no margin or anything that is not suiting you in this season.
We CAN say no to all the “extras” because it isn’t serving you or your family in this season and that is ok! We CAN step into those hard places with a friend and seek reconciliation and restoration.
I am the first to tell you that I am guilty of living a passive life by allowing life to happen to me. I wasn’t taking the time to work through the pain points in my life. I was on the hamster wheel of life just running as fast I could without slowing down.
Some things in life happen that are out of our control and we gotta hold on to the reigns and ride it out. But there are also things in our lives that we can work through intentionally and take steps to improve.
Over the past year, I have been evaluating my life and I noticed how I was allowing life to happen to me. I went through a traumatic event in 2017 and after that, a light switch went off for me. I realized how life is so short and I don’t want to get to the end of my life and be full of regrets.
I am learning that we gotta go out and tackle life & the bucket list now because we don’t know if we will have the time later. I am not trying to be a Debbie Downer but it is the truth and that truth smacked me upside the head last year. It is so easy to get caught up in the everyday mundane tasks and forget about what really sets our soul on fire.
I know that a lot of people wait until retirement age to start tackling their bucket list. But when they get there (or if) it is harder for them to get around due to health or physical issues. So then they never get to their bucket list and they are left with regrets. I don’t want that for my life and if I had to guess I bet you don’t want that for your life either. Why wait to tackle your bucket list until later in life? How about we start tackling that list now while you are young?
My motto is “SEIZE THE MOMENT!!!” God didn’t call us to a boring, passive life but an abundant one. A life that is full of purpose, passion, intentionality, laughter, fun, joy, etc. John 10:10 says that Jesus came so that we may have abundant life. So what are we waiting for?
I want this space to be a tribe of women who are cheering and encouraging each other towards an abundant life.
So how do we make sense of all the messy that life brings and how do we turn it into something that is beautiful? Let’s figure it out together, one step at a time. Shall we?
Friend, I want you to know that you are always welcome here!!!
Drop a line in the comments and introduce yourself!!! I would love to hear from you and meet you!!!